“Desperate” Book Review | Columbus Ohio Baby Photographer

Chapter 1: ” Ideals and Going Under”

Over the past two weeks I introduced the book Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe By Sarah Mae. If you missed those posts, you can read them here and here. Today, I am going to delve into chapter 1.

Sarah Mae starts off the chapter with this quote:

“I want to set realistic goals that fit who I am, and what God requires of me.”

I realized very quickly that some of the goals I had set for myself in motherhood were unrealistic. Until I lowered my expectations, I was always disappointed because I felt like I was failing. Ultimately, it is what God wants for us that matters. My main goal is to please Him and fulfill the purpose that he has given me.

Sally Clarkson, mentor to Sarah Mae, offers a lot of insight throughout this book. Her input in chapter 1 is no exception. In the following excerpt, she shares one of her prayers.

“As I sat in still darkness, my heart cried out to God, perhaps more sincerely than ever before. Lord, teach me how to be a mother. I feel so inadequate. I don’t know what to do. But you are {insert child’s name}’s heavenly father, and you love him even more than I do, so please show me your way and help me to know how to do the right things.”

I have prayed that prayer more times than I can count. I just want to do what is right for my son. I want to be the best mom to him that I can be. I want to raise him in a way that is pleasing to God. As a parent, there are so many important decisions to make for my child. I want to make the right ones.

Sally is full of encouraging words for a mom who is struggling. Her words made me feel so important. She reminds women every where that God designed them with a specific purpose in mind.

“In keeping with His character, He must have intended something beautiful in creating a woman with the ability to give life, nurture with love, and cultivate the soul of a precious human being entrusted into her hands.”

Such a big, important, and sometimes scary responsibility God has given to mothers. He trusted me to love, nurture, and care for the sweet little boy he blessed me with. I never want to take my job as a mother lightly. Thankfully, he doesn’t just leave us on our own to figure everything out. He leads us and guides us each and every day.

“Each of us has a story, but God who originated the design of motherhood, is the expert adviser to whom we should turn. God has equipped us for every good work, and I am quite confident that he who designed this role to be so eternally significant is the one who is ready to help, support, instruct, and guide. He will provide all we need for the task he has given us to fulfill. But to hear from God we must become women of the word and women who pray, so that His voice may lead us as we grow into this role with grace.”

At the end of the chapter, Sally leaves us with one more quote to tell us just how important she believes the role of a mother to be.

“I have even come to believe that a mother’s role might be the most determining factor as to how history will unfold.”

That quote reminds me of another one by William Ross Wallace that my husband often reminds me of.

“The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.”

I would like to leave you with the two verses of scripture that Sarah Mae included at the end of this chapter.

“Do not fear, for I am with you; do not anxiously look about you., for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will uphold you with my righteous hand.” – Isaiah 41:10

“Come to me, all who are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28


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